You Recognized the Pattern. Now Let Me Help You Break It.
Body-language-based coaching for people dealing with narcissists, manipulators, and toxic personalities.
Something in that video landed. Maybe it was a phrase. Maybe it was a scenario that felt too familiar to be a coincidence. Maybe it was the realization that you could finally name the thing that has been happening to you.
And now you can see the pattern. The deflection. The manufactured calm. The words that sound like apologies but leave you feeling worse. The slow, deliberate erosion of your confidence in your own perception.
You can see it. But seeing it has not stopped it.
Knowing what manipulation looks like does not stop your nervous system from falling for it again. That is what coaching is for.
You Can Spot the Trap. But Your Body Still Walks Into It.
You have read the articles. You have watched dozens of videos. You can explain narcissistic tactics to a friend better than most therapists can.
And yet.
The next time he deflects, your voice will still rise. The next time he rewrites what happened, some part of you will still wonder if you are the one who is confused. The next time you try to set a boundary and he responds with that rehearsed calm, you will still feel like the unreasonable one.
This is not a knowledge problem. This is a nervous system problem. Your body was trained, over months or years, to respond exactly the way he needs you to respond. Understanding the tactic does not undo the training.
That is the gap between watching a video and changing a dynamic. And that gap is exactly what coaching closes.
What Happens in a Session With Me
This is not therapy. I am not going to ask about your childhood for six months before we get to the thing that is destroying you right now. This is targeted, body-language-based coaching designed to do three things:
First, I decode your specific situation. Not a generic narcissist. YOUR narcissist. The exact tactics he uses. The exact sequences. The micro-expressions, the posture shifts, the vocal patterns he deploys to shut you down. I walk you through what he is doing with his body and why it works on you specifically.
Second, I retrain your response pattern. You have seen counter-strategies in my videos. One sentence, one shift, one moment of silence that breaks the cycle. In a coaching session, I build you a complete toolkit calibrated to YOUR dynamic. What to say. What not to say. Where to look. How to breathe. How to hold your body so that his tactics stop working.
Third, I show you the pattern before it starts. Every manipulation tactic has a setup. There are signals that come before the deflection, before the false apology, before the manufactured calm. Signals most people miss because they do not know what to look for. I teach you to read the setup so you are never ambushed by the performance again.
This Is for You If...
You recognized yourself in one of my videos and your first thought was “but knowing this will not change what happens tomorrow night”
You have been told you are “too emotional,” “too sensitive,” or “dramatic” so many times that part of you believes it
You have stopped bringing things up, not because the problems went away, but because raising them costs more than carrying them
You leave conversations feeling like you owe someone an apology for having feelings
You can feel your voice rising and you hate yourself for it, but you cannot stop it
You are exhausted from doing all the emotional labor in a relationship where the other person contributes nothing but a stare and a rehearsed line
This Is NOT for You If...
You are looking for someone to validate leaving or staying. That is your decision. I will never make it for you.
You want a diagnosis of your partner. I am not a therapist and I will not label anyone.
You are not ready to do uncomfortable work. Retraining your responses means sitting with discomfort. I will be kind, but I will not be soft about the parts that matter.
Why Me and Not a Therapist
I am not against therapy. Some of my clients are in therapy and coaching with me at the same time. They do different things.
A therapist helps you understand your wounds. I help you stop getting new ones.
My entire career has been built on reading people. Over 15 years studying and teaching body language, micro-expressions, deception detection, and nonverbal influence. I have analyzed hundreds of hours of manipulative behavior frame by frame. I know what these tactics look like from the outside, which means I can teach you to see them in real time instead of only recognizing them three hours later when you are lying in bed replaying the conversation.
What I bring to the table that most coaches and therapists do not:
A body language framework that makes the invisible visible. I do not just tell you “he is manipulating you.” I show you the exact physical signals, the ones you can see with your own eyes, so you never have to wonder again.
Pattern recognition trained on hundreds of real cases. I have studied how manipulators behave across every context. I know the playbook because I have reverse-engineered it.
Actionable counter-strategies, not just insight. Every session ends with something you can use. Not something to think about. Something to do the next time it happens.
How It Works
Investment: $500 per session (45 minutes, one-on-one, video call)
What you get:
45 minutes of focused, private coaching with me personally
A body language breakdown of your specific situation — bring examples, bring stories, bring the thing that happened last week
A personalized response toolkit you can deploy immediately
A recording of the session so you can revisit the strategies when you need them most
Email follow-up for 7 days after the session for any questions that come up when you start applying what we covered
How to book: Click the link below to schedule your session. You will fill out a brief intake form so I can prepare specifically for your situation before we get on the call. This is not a generic coaching call. By the time we start, I will already have a read on your dynamic.
“Is $500 a Lot?”
How much has the manipulation already cost you?
How many nights replaying conversations. How many mornings waking up exhausted because your nervous system never turned off. How many times you swallowed something that needed to be said because the last time you said it, you ended up being the one who apologized.
How much have you spent on approaches that helped you understand the wound but did not stop the knife?
One session is designed to change the dynamic in your very next interaction. Not in six months. Not after a workbook and a journaling exercise. In your next conversation.
You were never the unstable one. You were the only person in that room actually feeling something. That was never your weakness.
Now let me show you how to make it your power.
Much Love and Bliss,
Jesús.
The Body Language Guy